A Psychologist Revealed a 3-Minute-Rule That All Parents Should Follow

How much time do you spend with your child after work? Technically, we only need about 30 minutes to cook dinner for them, about 15 minutes to read a book, and just a moment to kiss them good night. However, according to experts, among all these periods, there are 3 minutes that can be the most important of the day. Psychologist Nataliya Sirotich explained the rule of 3 minutes and according to her, if you follow this rule, you will have your child’s trust even when they are teenagers.
We decided to find out how to use these 3 minutes correctly to reach a level of complete and total understanding with a child, and it turned out to be pretty easy!

The rule of 3 minutes


This rule says that you have to meet your child every day as if you haven’t seen each other for a long time (even if you haven’t seen each other for 5 minutes while you were away at the store.)

Besides, it’s very important to be on the same level as the child’s eyes and spend 3 minutes hugging the child and asking them what happened while you were away. It’s especially important to follow this rule when you pick up your child from the kindergarten, school, or when you come back home from work.

Why it’s necessary


According to the psychologist, during the very first minutes after you see your child, they tell you all the information they can remember.

The consequences of ignoring the rule of 3 minutes can vary, depending on the character of the child. Someone who doesn’t have a chance to tell everything to the parents when they can won’t talk about very important things and over time, some facts will seem not important enough to even talk about them. In this case, parents might miss a lot of really important things.

Other children will keep talking the entire evening, recalling new facts every time and in the end, they will have a complete story. The parents of such a child have a risk of not hearing a lot of things too, because, for them, a speaking child will eventually become just background noise.

Additional recommendations

It’s important to note that the rule of 3 minutes doesn’t mean that you should spend only 3 minutes a day with your child. It only means that you must spend 3 minutes with the child right after you’ve met them to make sure you hear everything that is important for the child to tell you.

Also, to reach a level of complete understanding with your child, you can follow these recommendations from psychologists:

  • Spend some time every day to do something that you and the child are interested in together.
  • Let your kids understand that you hear them. For example, you can repeat the information you’ve heard from your child to make sure you understood everything correctly.
  • Don’t demonstrate fake excitement.
  • Return to the conversations a bit later, let them know that you remember what they talk to you about.
  • Avoid long and useless arguments even if they are about something completely obvious for you. Just tell your child, “OK, I understand that you disagree with me.”

How do you spend your time with your child? Maybe you follow the rule of 3 minutes on an intuitive level and always listen to everything that they have to say? Tell us in the comment section below!

What It Means To Love A Girl Who Never Believes She’s Good Enough

The girl who never thinks she measures up will always leave everything on the table. She will give everything that is within her and more. She will always take care of others while own problems pile up in the background. She will be empathic to the plight of those suffering around her. She would have character and grace that stands taller than her peers and yet she won’t notice it.

Being in love with such a girl isn’t an easy task. As much as she is a shining light of grace and greatness, the dark side of it all is that she doesn’t know it enough to believe herself. She is filled with thoughts of doubt and worthlessness. She will find it hard to draw inspiration from her past deeds and would always have to repeat herself or put to her past to prove herself. And as much as that brings about consistency in her actions – a good thing, she will remain in the loop of trying to prove that she is worthy of being treated as a human being or deserving of love.

She would pour her heart, soul, and body to you but will still be plagued by the thoughts that you won’t love her for who she is. She will always underestimate herself and would always think less of herself.

For her, there will always be something missing, something not quite right with her. She will live with anxiety, worrying that she would do something so bad that her world would fall apart, although she has done nothing wrong. But even at that you still have to love her.   

To love this type of girl, you have to be different. You have to come into the relationship knowing that you are going to love her with all your heart. And this is because your consistent shower of love is what is going to make her begin to heal. Begin to love herself and see herself for who she is. You have to look past all the insecurities, bitterness and doubts inside her. 

Loving this girl means being patient in your approach to help her. Remembering along the way that she – just like every other human being, isn’t perfect. Understanding that as much as she might hurt you in her dark times, she needs you more than ever then.

Loving a girl who hasn’t come around to loving herself is the cure for her. If you love her with all sincerity and respect for her – on a consistent basis, she would finally begin to quiet the doubting shadows of her mind. She would – with the strength your love provides her, stand to face her inner demons. She would finally wash herself of the dirt of self-doubt and low self-esteem to see the sparkle she releases. She will come to know that she is a gem.

But before she gets there, please keep loving her

Please do.

The 5 Zodiacs That Are Most Likely To Be Unfaithful In A Relationship

Unfaithfulness and disloyalty in a relationship isn’t a trait limited to a certain group of people. People who cheat are as varied as you can imagine on different aspects of life and that is the same for the reasons behind their decision to cheat.

It is also important to know that everyone has the capacity to cheat. But the ability to stay disciplined and loyal to your partner plays a big factor in whether you will fall into that trap or not.

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When it comes to astrology, we can say that there are 5 top signs that are most likely to cheat on their partners. This also doesn’t take anything away from their characters as human beings as we know that individual also have differences even within a zodiac sign.

1. CANCERS – THE EMOTIONAL CHEATER

The Cancers are very much in touch with their emotions. They are also very dedicated hard working folk who tend to pursue excellence in all aspects of their lives.

When it comes to relationships, Cancers are known to be very much invested in the progress and sustenance of the relationship. They do so emotional and otherwise.

But their loyalty begins to fade when they perceive that their partners aren’t as emotionally committed to the relationship as they are. They will get frustrated because they are giving so much and getting so little in return.

And so that could lead them to look elsewhere while still in the relationship. They may not want to break the relationship themselves so as not to hurt you and so would instead cheat.

To prevent that as a partner to a Cancer, put in an effort to shower them with as much love as they invest into the relationship. That is the best way to feel appreciated and valued. Get that, and you won’t have to worry about their loyalty.

2. PISCES – UNFAITHFUL FANTASY TURNS INTO REALITY

Pisces are known for their daydreaming and fantasies. And in their fantasy world, they tend to remove all barriers. There they could be the innocent partner or the big bad wolf.

Now, combining that with the fact that they also are very passionate sexual beings, there is a high chance that they must have fantasized about cheating.

And when it gets to that point, it is only a matter of time before they begin to act out their thoughts.

It is also important to note that when they cheat on their partners, their empathic side makes them feel horrible about what they did, and so they try to make things right.

But then again they fall back into the same things that got them to the point of regret. The only true way to get them out of that rot as a partner is to encourage them to play out their fantasies in the bedroom. If they do that, then they would be less likely to go elsewhere.

3. LEO – ROYAL CHEATING MACHINE

The Leo needs are to be the center of attention, and so they will not feel comfortable in a relationship where they aren’t treated like royalty.

And so their eyes could wander off if they are faced with such a situation. This is something that is characteristic of the Leo; they don’t like to accept status quo if it presents them with an unpleasant experience.

And so if that unpleasant experience they have is a direct or indirect result of them engaging in a relationship, trust them to move on before even officially ending the relationship.

They are usually good at this partly because of their huge egos and their audacity to look for whatever it is they want.

4. AQUARIUS – FREEDOM TO ROAM

For the Aquarius, their gifts is also their curse in this issue. They are known to love variety. That comes in experiences such as traveling and having hobbies. That helps them live very exciting lives, but that gift can be the bane of existence when it comes things that need commitment and consistency to last or succeed.

A relationship is definitely one of those things, and so they have to struggle with their addiction to the ”shiny new thing”.

If and when they eventually do cheat, they get overwhelmed with regret and try to amend things with the partner they hurt. But that guilt isn’t enough to keep them in check, instead spicing up a relationship with an Aquarius is a much more effective way to keep them faithful.

5. CAPRICORN – STRAYING DUE TO BOREDOM

The Capricorn likes to be in a relationship with someone who is very appreciative of their effort in building the relationship. They really don’t cheat just for the fun of it and will instead try to make their relationships work.

And only in extreme situations of neglect in a relationship will they cheat with someone who can fill that void.

Finally, we all should take our relationships seriously. We should get to know our partners well – what they like, what they don’t and things that make them tick. That way, we can better support our partners.

Also, we should be very careful when we tread paths that could potentially lead to cheating. It is a lot honorable to end a relationship than staying in one while going for another.

Jack wakes up with a black eye and hangover, finds wife’s strange note and starts to cry

He doesn’t remember what happened the night before, but when he reads the note…..

You should always be careful with alcohol. If you happen to drink too much, odds are that you’ll do something that you’ll regret in the morning. Or even worse, you could do something absolutely amazing and forget about it right afterwards…

I found this story earlier today and I just had to share it with you. The man wakes up with a disfigured face, and only remembers fragments of the previous night. What happens next is… well, I won’t spoil the ending for you!

A married man, Jack wakes up with a huge hangover after a night out drinking with the boys. He doesn’t even remember how he got home from the party.

“Oh, damn,” he thinks to himself, wondering if he did something wrong the night before.

Jack had to force himself to open his eyes, and the first thing he sees is a couple of aspirins next to a glass of water on the nightstand.

Jack sits up and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed.

He takes the aspirins, and then cringes when he sees a huge black eye staring back at him in the bathroom mirror.

Then he notices a note hanging on the corner of the mirror written in redJack sits up and sees his clothing in front of him, all clean and pressed.

He takes the aspirins, and then cringes when he sees a huge black eye staring back at him in the bathroom mirror.

Then he notices a note hanging on the corner of the mirror written in red with little hearts on it and a kiss mark from his wife in lipstick: “Dear husband, last night you came home drunk and made a huge racket. But don’t worry! Breakfast is on the stove. I left early to get groceries to make your favorite dinner tonight. I love you, darling!

Love, Jillian”
He stumbles into the kitchen and sure enough, there is hot breakfast, steaming hot coffee, and the morning newspaper all waiting for him. His son is also at the table, eating.
Jack asks,”Son… what happened last night?”
The truth is revealed

“Well, you came home after three in the morning, drunk and out of your mind. You fell over the coffee table and broke it, and then you threw up in the hallway, and got that black eye when you ran into the door”

Confused, he asks his son, “So, why is your mother in such a good mood, and why is there breakfast on the table waiting for me?”
His son replies, “Oh THAT! Well, when Mom dragged you to the bedroom, and tried to take your pants off, you screamed, “Leave me alone, I’m married! I’m married!

Jack was so relieved that he started crying!

A Woman’s Reply To A Husband Eloping With Her Sister.

It goes like this…

Dear Wife,

I’m writing you this letter to tell you that I’m leaving you for good. I’ve been a good man to you in our 7 years of marriage & I have nothing to show for it. These last 2 weeks have been tough for me. Your boss notified me that you quit your job today & that was just too much to bear any longer. Last week, you came home & didn’t even notice I had a new haircut, had cooked your favorite meal & even wore a brand new pair of silk boxers. You ate in 2 minutes, & went straight to sleep after watching all of your soaps. You don’t tell me you love me anymore; you don’t want sex or anything that connects us as husband & wife. Either you’re cheating on me or you don’t love me anymore; whatever the case, It’s over and I am leaving.

Your EX-Husband

P.S. don’t try to find me. Your SISTER & I are moving away to West Virginia together! Have a great life!

Dear Ex-Husband,

Believe me, nothing has made my day more than receiving your letter. It’s definitely true that you & I have been married for the past 7 years, although a good man is a far cry from what you’ve been. I watch my TV shows so much because they drown out your constant whining & griping, although that doesn’t seem to work. I definitely noticed your haircut last week, but the 1st thing that came to mind was ‘You look just like a girl!’ And since my mother raised me not to say anything if you can’t say something nice, I decided not to comment. And when you cooked my favorite meal, you must have gotten me confused with MY SISTER, because I stopped eating pork 7 long years ago. About those new silk boxers: I turned away from you because the $49.99 price tag was still on them, & I prayed it was a coincidence that my sister had just borrowed $50 from me that morning. After all of this, I still loved you & felt we could make this workout. So when I hit the lotto for 10 million dollars, I quit my job & bought us 2 tickets to Jamaica. But when I got home you were gone. Everything happens for a reason, I guess. I hope you have the fulfilling life you always wanted. My lawyer said that the letter you wrote ensures you won’t get a dime from me. So take care.

Signed, Your Ex-Wife, Rich As Hell & Free!

P.S. I don’t know if I ever told you this, but my sister Carla was born Carl. I hope that’s not a problem.

7 Actions It’s Better to Avoid When Fighting With a Loved One

It’s so easy to hurt a person with a word or an action during a fight. The resentment can linger for much longer after the fight is over, ruining the relationship.

We chose 7 things you should never ever do while fighting with your loved ones.

7. Don’t include other family members in your fights.

Your fight concerns only the 2 of you and no one else. By drawing your parents into the conflict you risk turning a regular fallout into a real family mess. Even if harmony returns to your relationship, the other members of the family will most likely remember everything and will use that against you or your partner when given a chance.

6. Avoid violence.

While fighting, people tend to show the worst sides of their character. Some, trying to prove themselves right, resort to violence. Don’t allow yourself or your partner to use violence, no matter how angry you might be with each other. The physical pain caused by a loved one will kill all the feelings that once bound you.

5. Don’t mix it all up.

If the main cause of the fight is a pile of unwashed dishes, then let it stay that way. Do not remind your partner of all their prior wrongdoings — this is a way to turn a minor domestic issue into a big ugly conflict. In addition, your partner may have a logical question: do I need to continue a relationship in which there are so many demands?

4. Never ever talk about a divorce.

When you say “Let’s divorce” during a fight, this can become the biggest insult ever. These words may hurt the feelings of your partner really badly. And the more often you say them, the faster the divorce will actually occur. If you love each other, never talk about parting.

3. Never leave the house in the middle of a fight.

Simply leaving the house during a fight will only show how uncomfortable you feel staying under the same roof as your partner. Slamming the doors, running into the darkness, leaving the conflict unresolved — this all will make your partner think twice about your level of maturity. It’s way better to wait until you both calm down, and then you can discuss everything as adults.

2. Do not go to bed separately.

By going to sleep separately, you show that you are not ready to make up. The daily routine, such as going to bed together, will ease the atmosphere and quickly resolve the conflict. You may end up lying back to back at first, but in the morning you will wake up in each other’s arms without the tiniest hint of last night’s fight.

1. Never fight in public.

If you allow yourself and your partner to fight in a public place then, most likely, you do not respect each other or the surrounding people. Do not take skeletons out of your closet in public. It’s way better to talk about your issues at home.

 

20+ Hilarious Tumblr Feminists That Will Make Even The ‘Manliest’ Men Laugh

Whatever your views are, it’s hard not to admire feminists when they are making statements in such a badass manner. We scrolled through the depths of tumblr, collecting the funniest arguments that advocates of women’s rights have laid out while remaining completely on-point. Some are savagely destroying articles in the media, some are taking down popular beliefs, but all of these claims will put a smile on your face. Scroll down to enjoy the entries, vote for your favorites and check out our previous posts about feminism here and here.

12 Signs That Your Partner Is Madly In Love With You

True love is not only felt, it’s visible to the naked eye. But if you are one of those people who look for proof in every situation and prefer facts to deductions, arm your eyes and pay attention to the following signs.

We analyzed a fair portion of couples in love and came up with a list of things that signal that your partner loves you a lot.

1. They share their food.

If you remember Joey from “Friends,” a popular series back in the 90’s, he never shared his food with anyone. Even if this person was a girl he really favored and went on a date with. In fact, he even did the opposite — never missed on a chance to eat the girl’s portion once she took off to the ladies’ room.

Apparently, there are many people out there who hate when someone takes a bite of their food, especially without asking first. Many men also feel weird about romantically feeding each other with a spoon or a fork. That’s why seeing your partner sharing their food with you, offering you a taste of it, and never minding you eating from their plate in a public place or at home is a good sign of affection.

2. They leave you voice messages.

Online communication often takes the most of our time with other people these days. It’s a good alternative for those who can’t be together as much as they want but still feel the need to stay connected.

However, plain words on a screen don’t render the same meaning or have the warmth and intonation that were intended. They’re often impersonal. Voice messages, on the contrary, are not. They’re touching and they make distanced conversations so much better.

Next time you listen to a voice message your partner sent you, remember that they took time and effort to record it, sometimes having to find a quiet place all because they love you.

3. They leave their phone unattended.

Speaking of phones, some people guard their technical devices like vultures over their prey. They use all means of protection like passwords and fingerprints and never leave their phones or tablets unattended. When at home, accompanied by your partner, this behavior seems strange and might make your partner wonder why you are being so protective. Usually it means that the person has something to hide and this isn’t a good foundation for a relationship built on trust.

No one says that your partner should provide you with all passwords for all social network profiles, because we all have a right to privacy. But if the person behaves naturally around you and shows the signs of trust and sincerity in their intentions, that means nothing but true love.

4. They are up for trying new things.

When two people meet, they both bring their preferences and dislikes to the table. The older we get, the harder it is for us to say “yes” to something new, especially when it comes to hobbies and ways of passing the time.

A partner who deeply cares for you and wants to learn more about your personality will definitely try to take part in your extracurricular activities. Being involved in one hobby and doing things together, be it cooking courses or horse riding, tightens the bonds between the two of you and opens up your hidden qualities. Plus, it’s always another opportunity to spend some time together instead of being apart. And make sure to value the other person’s desire to spend as much time as possible with you in this era of busy work schedules.

That said, we don’t expect men to give you a hand during makeup classes or women to hold your screwdriver while you’re fixing the car in the garage, but how about finding something interesting for both partners?

5. They leave you lovely notes and surprise gifts all around.

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The devil is in the details, and so are true feelings. Grand gestures for big anniversaries and celebrations are a normal thing. Most of us don’t bail on these occasions and prepare presents. But it’s the small acts of kindness and unexpected pleasantries that have the most value and light up your day.

Small “I Love You” cards hidden in your coat’s pocket, funny messages scribbled on a bathroom mirror with toothpaste, the last piece of your favorite chocolate left for you, the examples are endless. And the main meaning such things render is — “I cherish you, and I want you to know about that each and every day.” Isn’t that a sign like no other!

6. They change their habits.

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Old habits die hard, we know that. We also know that no one should be expected to change their personality completely in order to stay in a productive relationship. Relationships are about two people being who they are but trying to be the very best version of themselves for each other.

Let’s say you live in a one-bedroom apartment. You’re an early bird and he used to watch TV half way through the night. Will he try to move his bedtime schedule up a bit for you to share some cuddling moments and have a good night’s sleep together? If yes, then you are lucky.

Or imagine a situation when he is a real bookworm (it happens, trust us), and you… well, you aren’t one. Having earrings and lipstick laying all over the house was pretty common for your single life. Would you try and become more organized, putting things on their place for him? If yes, then he is lucky. That’s what we mean.

7. They bear with you through the dullest moments.

This is between the two sexes. Both of us have their “things” that the other sex tries but fails to understand or accept.

For guys, that would be shopping. Not many men out there are eager to accompany their ladies on a shopping spree that can go on for hours. But if your man is up for spending time and money on clothes and accessories more often than not, he’s really into you. More so if he takes an active part in the choosing and fitting process, giving his advice and opinion (carefully thought-through, of course).

For girls it can be any sporting event, either live or broadcasted on TV that their second half is into. Life in the house can be put on hold for the period of championships or important games, but you can choose to get involved. Ask him to explain what the game is about and why he enjoys it so much. Sincere interest and a wish to be a part of his entertainment is bound to be appreciated.

8. They opt for conversation, not silence.

We all dream about that one person who we can keep silence with. It’s not about oppressive silence when you have nothing to talk about and struggle for a topic to discuss. No, it’s about that wonderful silence when everything is calm and clear, and you feel safe and quiet next to each other.

However, when a stormy period comes and there’s a situation or a problem to talk about, thoughtful conversation is the key. The person who really cares about your relationship and harmony between you two will always choose honesty and dialogue as opposed to suppressing discussion. The better you can learn to talk through matters, the easier it will be on your way forward. Love is about understanding too.

9. They are proud of being with you.

It’s OK to keep your relationship private at the beginning when you two are walking unstable ground or rather want to secretly enjoy the romance. But when it’s been a considerable amount of time since you started dating, and one of you is still being shy about your coupledom — that’s not cool.

Seeing that your partner is proud of being with you is, on the contrary, so uplifting. They’re ready to introduce you to friends, family, and colleagues, they talk about you a lot, they value your small steps toward the set goal, and celebrate your big victories. They change their social networks relationship status, are more than happy to post photos with you, and never stop holding your hand when meeting someone out. You’re together now, what’s not to be joyful about!

10. They don’t turn away from you when you need them the most.

Life isn’t just sunshine and rainbows, in fact, it’s full of pretty ugly moments too. Illness can happen to any of us and it’s usually unexpected. Setting aside the negative consequences of being ill, it’s a good chance to find out who you are with.

If your partner can be easily scared off by your not so beautiful looks, high temperature, weakness, newly discovered neediness, and a couple of whims — well, that’s a pity. If they eagerly run around buying oranges (“A good source of vitamin C!”), changing thermometers (“It’s going down, hurray!”) and binge watching your favorite series with you (“Oh, not again…Ah,OK, let’s do it”) — you found the right person.

11. They listen to your advice.

This one is really tough. On the one hand, women are looking for a strong man who can make decisions and men want a woman who can do better than being needy and indecisive all the time. On the other hand, we all want a partner who is ready to listen to us and won’t be ashamed of asking for advice. Two heads are better than one.

So if you found a special someone who values your opinions and wants to hear what you have to say, cling to them and don’t let go. Because they love you.

12. There’s lots of touching, and even biting.

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It’s scientifically proven that not only touching but also nibbling is an actual bonding experience. It might be the case, of course, that someone you are in love with is a reserved person and they don’t favor “all that cuddling” very much. But if your partner always strives for kisses, touches, snuggling, caressing, and even biting, it’s definitely a sign of a warm-hearted and deep relationship.

The desire to nibble on someone you love is explained by a certain connection in our brain between perceiving something is cute and looking for food.

Girl Mistakes Bride For Real-Life Princess From Book She’s Holding, And Her Reaction Melts Everyone’s Hearts

Most girls get to meet princesses only in Disneyland, but this little girl, she met one on the streets of Seattle.

“My wife and I got married last February, and during the photo shoot this little girl and her mom happened to be walking by,” Scott Robertson writes. “The little girl thought my beautiful wife was the Princess from her favorite book (the one she’s holding).” Since this all happened during their photo shoot, photographer Stephanie Cristalli managed to snap some photos. The little girl even got a flower from the bride’s, Shandace Lerma’s, bouquet. “Your wife is forever the Princess of Ballard to her,” the little girl’s mom told Scott

Most girls get to meet princesses only in Disneyland, but this little girl, she met one on the streets of Seattle

“My wife and I got married last February, and during the photo shoot this little girl and her mom happened to be walking by,” Scott Robertson said

“The little girl thought my beautiful wife was the Princess from her favorite book (the one she’s holding)”

“My wife gave her a flower from her bouquet”

And it made the little girls day!

This all happened during their photo shoot, so photographer Stephanie Cristalli managed to snap some pics

“Your wife is forever the Princess of Ballard to her,” the little girl’s mom told Scott

5 Things He Does When He’s In Love With You And 5 Things He Does When He’s Just Using You

Know the difference.

For plenty of people, dating is the one vehicle that they can use to land themselves in a relationship. And so you might try your hand at dating because you’re willing to take a chance on love. And you might get lucky on your first try or you might have to wade through your share of terrible relationships for a bit; but eventually, you might find someone who really has a chance of making things work with you. You meet someone you are absolutely smitten by and you start to emotionally invest yourself into the relationship.

But then, the deeper you get into the relationship, your insecurities start to creep up as well. Maybe the novelty of the early relationship has started to wane a little bit and the doubts are beginning to become more prominent. Is this really a relationship you can sustain? Is he really the kind of guy who is worth taking a chance on? Can you trust him to take care of your heart when you give it to him? These are all very valid questions that you need to be asking yourself before you move on in your relationship.

Not all people are going to be skilled at hiding their true feelings and motivations in a relationship. But there are a very skilled few who have mastered the art of deception. These are the men who you have to make sure to avoid at all costs. These are the men who will only look to wear you down and use you for their own personal benefit. And the moment that they realize that they can no longer extract anything beneficial from being with you, they will dump you all too quickly.

So you have to be a better judge of character. You have to know if your man is a good one so that you can do your best to not let him go. But you also need to know if he’s terrible so that you can keep yourself more guarded. Here is how you can tell if he’s for real based on the things that he does in the relationship.

 1. He is in love with you if you have revealed your worst to him and he still sticks around.

He has seen the worst of you. He has caught a glimpse of your flaws and imperfections. He has seen you when you were being so difficult – and he still sticks around. You know that his feelings are real because he is consistent.

2. He is using you if he makes major relationship decisions without consulting or thinking about you.

He obviously doesn’t care much about how his actions or decisions would make you feel. He doesn’t really see you as a partner. He just acts on his own accord regardless of how you might feel about a situation.

3. He is in love with you if he is doing whatever he can to make you happy.

He considers your happiness to be his own and he does whatever he can to put a smile on your face.

4. He is using you if all he cares about is his own personal happiness.

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He only ever does anything that makes him happy. If his actions happen to be detrimental or harmful to you and your relationship, it wouldn’t matter much to him – so as long as he ends up happy as a result.

5. He is in love with you if he gives you the safe space that you need to express yourself freely.

He acknowledges that you are your own person and he has no right to violate whatever boundaries you set for him in the relationship. And he also wants you to feel like you can express yourself however you want.

6. He is using you if he constantly criticizes you and judges you.

He is always making you feel like he is judging and criticizing you. He will always make you feel like you are a terrible human being just to hurt your feelings. There is no love or care behind his criticisms at all.

7. He is in love with you if he really opens himself up to you.

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He doesn’t hide anything from you. His life is an open book for you.

8. He is using you if he tries to hide his intentions and motivations from you.

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If you feel like he isn’t really being honest and open to you about his innermost feelings and motivations, then you know that he’s just using you in this relationship – and he doesn’t want you to know about it.

9. He is in love with you if he goes the extra mile to meet your needs in the relationship.

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He really does whatever he can to make sure that you are satisfied with being in a relationship with him.

10. He is using you if he makes you feel bad about not meeting his expectations.

He deliberately guilts you into thinking that you’re not enough for him. He wants to make you believe that you need to try harder to make yourself worthy of his love. He is acting withholding on purpose just to get you to do more.